How often would you like to have sex?
In an ideal world, how often would you have sex? Once a day? Once a month? When asked how often they’d have sex in an ideal world, 50% of our respondents said a few times a week and only 9% said once a day.
Does the amount you are having sex match how much you would like to be doing it? When we asked how often the people we surveyed are actually having sex on average, 35% said a few times a month and only 24% said a few times a week.
Are you happy with how much sex you’re having? When asked if they were satisfied with the amount of sex they were having, 51% said yes. However, when asked if they would prefer to have more or less sex than they were already having, 57% also said they would prefer to have more sex.
The orgasm gap
It’s 2022, so we’re going to assume you’ve heard of the orgasm gap, where it’s said that heterosexual women basically orgasm less than everyone else on average. We decided to see if this was true of our sample. We asked our heterosexual female respondents how often they typically orgasm from penetrative sex. We found that 10% orgasm every time, 21% orgasm regularly and 22% orgasm sometimes.
We did not survey men, so we can’t compare those results. However, other studies have suggested that as many as 90% of men say they usually orgasm during penetrative sex, compared with around 50% of women.
Our results show that almost 50% of the heterosexual women we surveyed are not experiencing orgasm from penetrative sex. In contrast, 59% of our respondents said they orgasm ‘every time’ or ‘regularly’ from non penitrative types of sex, and just 12% saying they rarely or never experience orgasm from non penitrative types of sexual contact.
It’s important to remember that orgasm doesn’t have to be the goal of sex, but if you’d like to experience more pleasure in the bedroom consider talking to your partner(s) about foreplay, stimulating the clitoris during sex, and incorporating sex toys.
What is the UK’s favourite sex position?
What is the nations favourite sex position? Our survey found that missionary came out on top at 31%. Doggy style was also popular, with 27% opting for it.
Do you feel self conscious about your body when you’re having sex? If so, you’re not alone. A whopping 60% said that they feel self conscious about their body while doing the deed, and 66% prefer to have sex with the lights off. Straight respondents were more likely to prefer sex with the lights off: 67% vs 56% of those with another sexuality.
Have you ever had an STI test?
We understand that taking a sexually transmitted infections (STI) test isn’t everyone’s idea of a perfect Sunday morning, but it is so important to know your status so you can keep yourself and others safe.
We were surprised to find that 53% of people who took our survey have never done an STI test. When broken down by age, we found that 42% of 18-24-year-olds, 43% of 25-34 year olds, 60% of 35-44 and 76% of 45-54 year olds have never been tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
Most STIs are treatable, and they can be managed with medication. Depending on where you live, you may be able to access a home STI test where you send off your samples and get your results via text.
What’s the key to healthy and happy sex and relationships?
Finally, we asked everyone for one piece of advice to improve your sex life and relationships, and the majority of people said something along the lines of honest and open communication and listening to each other.
Sometimes, it’s hardest to open up to the people we’re closest to, which makes sense because it feels like there is more at stake, but these are also the most important relationships in your life and they need regular care and watering to keep them healthy.
Would you have answered differently? What tips do you have for better sex and relationships? Let us know on social @HanaPillUk